Have you heard the term flying solo? It has become a common pattern in the mindset of people today, which is to be single forever. Although there are many instances that people find their life alone is better and glorious, many consequences come in the way while leading life alone. Most of the time, this kind of mentality breeds due to different scenarios that one has gone through in the personal life.
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Why are people choosing to be single forever?
1. Societal impact
One main criterion that people find influential to be single forever is the societal impact. If there are broken marriages and failed relationships in and around the family, friends, and society, their ‘hope’ to be with one person ‘forever’ dies. It brings a lot of questions to the person’s mind whether being in a relationship would be fruitful or would end up as a scary story. Most of the scary stories that people have seen influence their minds, leading them to decide singlehood.
2. Financial situations
The millennials and Gen Z have become extremely calculative to be very practical and being single forever offers financial freedom. For example, in the past, it was a tradition to get married after a certain age, which has been seeing a lot of change in recent years. Today, the financial aspect is driving the decision-making process in life, where people find it expensive and unnecessary to get into a relationship forever. For example, a single person can lead a luxurious life with one income. He or she can afford vacations, a good house, luxury cars, jewelry, and many more greater things. However, these things will be compromised if there is a partner involved. A married person will not be able to save money and spend the same way a single person can or even cannot experience luxury because marriage brings a lot of responsibility, and financial matters get disturbed.
Again being single offers great freedom. For example, a single person can do things as he wants or she wants. They can make their timetable and change their schedule as, and when they need it, they have the flexibility to prioritize the tasks or needs and how they feel. These, but the simple things in the daily routine, also have a greater impact. For example, a single person can make decisions abruptly or instantly. To be very clear, let’s say there is a problem at the office. If it occurs with a single person, they can immediately decide about quitting the job. Still, the married person or someone in a relationship can not instantly take the same decision because the financial aspect and all these things mentioned above are interlinked. A person cannot freely do things as he wants if he is in a relationship to experience freedom and enjoy the space. Rather, they wish to be single forever.
4. The phobia about kids
This is one major reason why people choose to be single forever. Once you are married, a series of questions are asked about having children because that is the next goal, apparently after marriage. However, this creates a phobia for most people because having kids is a major responsibility in life that involves a lot of physical strength, pressure, financial burdens, and emotional resilience, which is required to be a good parent. Managing everything for kids is not a simple task, and it takes away your whole time. You would have to dedicate your entire life to becoming a good parent, and it is a beautiful thing in nature, but if it scares the person, then the situation would be very difficult to handle. The amount of love, time, and patience required to nurture a child’s future will be enormous. The entire life would just pass away in being a good parent. Since it is a demanding situation, most people will get frightened or can’t afford to spend the time required to fulfill a child’s needs; hence choosing to be single offers an easier choice.
5. Commitment issues
If you choose to be single forever, you definitely have a thriving life with the people you like. You can spend your life the way you want and even be with multiple partners with no questions asked or no strings attached. However, it can’t happen with the people in a relationship or married. Being with someone requires commitment, honesty, and loyalty. If the relationship lacks any of them, it is bound to fail. Today, lifestyle changes are fast-paced and extremely dynamic; therefore, maintaining a good relationship for life takes effort. So most people want to experience singlehood, without any commitments or partner pressure.
To wrap up
People who choose to be single forever experience societal pressure and emotional trauma in addition to the matrimonial mania that comes around with family and relatives. However, most people live an equally happy life as married people do in their older age. Again, it is a different scenario for women being single because there is a lot more pressure on them. However, as they fight the battle by being single, they eventually are in a similar place to their peers.